It seems there has been a high crime rate lately of serial daters and serial lovers. Those people that go from one relationship to the other and every time, without fail, "falls in love." Seriously?!? How does that happen?? Now call me cautious but if I've had "my heart broken so many times" before (wah) I would NOT be rushing out to have it done again. I would take a little me time to figure some 'ish out. Clearly my past 18 relationshits (thank you Dane Cook) have not worked out so mayyybe, JUST maybe, I need to figure out exactly what I am looking for and what I like instead of what is standing in front of me or the next thing to show me the least bit of attention. Paaaaaaaaathetic!
Now granted I was never a dating kinda gal so I understand if this comes off a little critical, I tend to be that way. I dated 2 people, both of which lasted over a year and 1 of which I am MARRYING and no I am not counting the grade school "dating" I had which was like maybe 2 people where I stayed home sick the day after we started "dating" and broke up with them the next day. True story. With a guy, I could tell instantly (or so I think) if I thought I would "click" with someone or not and more than likely it was the latter of the two.
I'm not a just "date for fun" kinda person either. I am a serious dater, not a serial dater. I take my heart seriously. That shit hurts when it gets broken not to mention all the effort that goes into starting a relationship, let alone to keep it going. Exxxxxhausting! I don't want to have the hassle of telling you about my past, my family(s), my friends, where I went to school, this, that, and the other....yadda yadda yadda...noooo thanks!
These serial daters are usually the same serial lovers. They "fall in love" every single flipping time like it is damn clock work! Give me a break! How do you fall in love with someone in a month! A month! Another thing I was never one to partake in...throwing around the "L" word. mmm no thanks. If I tell you that I love you, I am as serious as the female praying mantis! And that little insect means business!
These serial daters and lovers then become obsessed daters and lovers because it is the ONLY thing they post about on their networking site. Realllly?! You don't have ANYTHING else interesting going on in your life to post about?! Really?
Now my take on the serial daters and serial lovers that turn into the obsesses lovers is that you MUST have some deep seeded insecurities to throw yourself into a relationship over and over like it defines you or makes you a better, "whole" person. Hate to let the cat out of the bag....but it doesn't define you NOR make you better! Sorrrrrry! And this is another reason why I think you need a little "me time" to figure out these insecurities amongst the other issues I listed.
I ALSO think that you don't realllly invest everything you have into this relationshit. You are faking it because you're not REALLY looking for something serious. Again, deep seeded issues that should be taken care of before your next dive into "love."
Call me jaded, call me critical but allll of this makes me SO happy I am getting married! To someone I love and have loved for YEARS!
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